Finding a "mother" or "father" - A difficult part of life as an AB/DL is finding a partner that will succesfuly, and voluntarilly fulfill their needs. This is extremely difficult for adult babies because they desire their partner to take on a caregiver role, which means acting as a "mommy" or "daddy" to them. It is hard because not many people truly desire to take care of their significant other in this way. Female AB/DLs are not necessarily willing to be mommies. Diaper lovers may end up taking on the role of the caregiver to an adult baby. In fact, 95% of mommies and daddies started as DLs. Also, some AB/DLs "switch" roles. Switching means sometimes they may act as the caregiver and other times as the baby.