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What is a Diaper Lover?

A diaper lover is different from an AB because they are fundamentally focused around the wearing of a Diaper or Nappy. For a Diapers Lover, it is all about the feel of the diaper and usually its use, that is, the intended use of a diaper. DLs tend to be more sexually motivated then ABs and usually integrate Diaper Play into their general sex life, like prolonged bondage or watersports.

Diaper fetishism
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Diaper fetishism, or diaperism, is a paraphilia in which a person feels a strong desire to wear or use diapers, usually without physiological necessity. It is differentiated from infantilism in that those of the latter category are also focused with returning to babyhood in ways other than by wearing diapers. The popular term for diaper fetishists is "diaper lover." Diaper fetishism is a type of sexual fetishism, which is one of many paraphilias [1].

As of 2009[update], little analysis of this paraphilia has been reported in medical literature

Diapers in paraphilias

Diapers are often utilized by a wide range of paraphilias.

Paraphilic infantilism

Main article: Paraphilic infantilism

Diaper fetishes are often associated with paraphilic infantilism. Similarly, diaper lovers (DLs for short) are often associated with the adult babies (ABs). While there is some commonality, they are not identical. The majority of diaper lovers do not engage in any kind of babyish activities and only solely are interested in diapers. However, about four in ten diaper lovers also consider themselves adult babies, [4][5] so they are sometimes collectively referred to as AB/DLs. [6]These desires are not related to pedophilia or infantophilia in any way. [7] Inside the AB/DL communities, a sharp distinction is observed. Most of these communities will actively expel child molesters. [8]

Rubber fetishism

Main article: Garment_fetishism#Latex.2FPVC

Some rubber and plastic fetishists have an affinity for diapers and rubber pants. In this case of disposable diapers, this attraction would be to their crinkly plastic backing. In the case of cloth diapers, it would be towards the latex or pvc of the pants worn over them.


Main article: BDSM

Diapers are sometimes used during prolonged bondage sessions, not only as a method to control and shame the submissive partner, but also to allow longer periods of bondage. [9] In Total Power Exchange, diapers are sometimes utilized for the dependency they represent of the wearer on their master to be checked and changed.


Main article: Omorashi

Omorashi is a fetish subculture recognized predominantly in Japan, in which participants experience arousal from having a full bladder or a sexual attraction to someone else experiencing the feeling of a full bladder. For such fetishists, climax usually coincides with the moment of relief and embarrassment experienced when the desperate individual loses bladder control. Some subsets of omorashi fandom utilize diapers, in which case it is referred to as "omorashi omutsu," or less commonly called "omorashi oshime," both of which translate as "to wet oneself in a diaper."

Preferences in diaper fetishism

Like many fetishes, personal preference plays a large role in which communities the fetishist will identify with. In diaper fetishism, one of the primary divisions of preference is whether or not the diapers are used for their intended purpose, and if so, to what degree.
Many diaper lovers gain arousal from "wetting" or urinating in their diapers. A smaller number [10] gain the same arousal from using the diaper to "mess" or defecate. Some fetishists do not use their diapers at all.

  1. ^ Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition. Washington, DC, American Psychiatric Association, 2000, pg 566-570 (4th ed. TR)
  2. ^ Pate J.E., Gabbard G.O. (2003). Adult baby syndrome Am J Psychiatry 160:1932-1936
  3. ^ Malitz S, (1966). Another report on the wearing of diapers and rubber pants by an adult male. Am J Psychiatry 122:1435-1437
  4. ^ Thomas John Speaker, Psychosexual Infantilism in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression. Columbia Pacific University. pg 83. Available from: DPF, Sausalito, CA 94965.
  5. ^ Section 10 - Into the Future Retrieved 2002 from, now mirrored at
  6. ^ Watson, J. (2005, June 9). Baby Man, Thomas John Speaker, Psychosexual Infantilism in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression. Columbia Pacific University. pg 78. Available from: DPF, Sausalito, CA 94965.
  7. ^ Arndt, William B., Jr. (1991). Gender Disorders and the Paraphilias, International Universities Press, pg 394, ISBN 0-8236-2150-2.
  8. ^ Gilstrap, P. (1999, March 7-11). The Diapers They Are a-Changin'. The New Times Los Angeles. Available from DPF and the website of the interviewee, Mike A.
  9. ^ Arizona Power Exchange News, April 2006, Volume 18, Issue 4 [1]
  10. ^ Thomas John Speaker, Psychosexual Infantilism in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression. Columbia Pacific University. pg 81. Available from: DPF, Sausalito, CA 94965.